The Other Side of the Microphone

In my previous blog post about interviews, I referred to my being the host of KBOO Community Radio‘s Pathways program. In this blog, I’m going to share about my own appearances in support of my latest book, as well as my talks about the I Ching.

Nowadays I find myself on the other side of the microphone as the person who is trying to help people make better decisions via my latest book, the best-selling Great Decisions, Perfect Timing. It’s gratifying to see that there is an appetite for the book and its message, which includes some interest in online classes that we are in the process of developing.

When I invested everything I had in developing I Ching software back in 1989, my peers thought I was crazy. The only excuse I could offer at the time was, “Wherever God drags me, I will follow.” Now I’m finding myself invited (not quite dragged) into the limelight through media interviews and public readings. Even though I don’t have a huge desire to promote myself, the response that Great Decisions, Perfect Timing is receiving tells me that I should step up to the microphone.

Readers have responded warmly to the personal stories in my book. Many have been inspired by how I walked away from a high-paying, VP-level job in the tech industry to pursue my desire for greater creative freedom designing esoteric software that had special meaning for me. However, I signal a note of caution. Some think that the lesson is to simply “follow their muse out of love” and shuck their jobs right away. But after I left my full-time position, I kept up a “day job” as a high-tech marketing consultant for years in order to fund my creative pursuits. Greater creative freedom takes commitment, discipline, and sacrifice. The happy ending to my business story certainly did not happen overnight!

The warm and enthusiastic response to this particular story (and many others in the book) signals a natural drive for greater creative freedom. When I advise people not to quit their day job (just yet), I remind them of how grateful we should be for any creative freedom at all. As recently as 250 years ago, we had no freedom to choose our profession, where we live, even who we marry. You are probably living a high level of creative freedom right now. The desire for even greater creative freedom is positive, however, because this desire drives personal and cultural evolution. It gets better!

If you listen to any of the radio show I’ve been interviewed for, I hope that you find them worthwhile and enjoyable. My recent interview on the Dr. Pat Show (with Pat Baccili) is a great introduction to these podcasts if you haven’t had a chance to hear them yet. You can listen to this and all of my recent interviews on the Resources page of the Divination Foundation website.

Note: All the proceeds from Great Decisions, Perfect Timing and the best-selling Visionary I Ching app go to the non-profit Divination Foundation.

The Transformative Power of Media

Media transforms lives and reflects our fascinations. We read books that inspire us, view films that move us, and listen to programs that broaden our knowledge. Sometimes getting involved with media can be a powerful, transformative experience in and of itself. That certainly describes how I became the host of the Pathways interview program on Portland’s KBOO Community Radio.

During Stage Two of my life (I explain the life stages in my latest book, Great Decisions, Perfect Timing), I worked in software marketing for an Oregon start-up. I loved listening to the Pathways interview program on KBOO. At the time, the show was hosted by Tom Park, who conducted insightful interviews with leaders involved with personal and cultural transformation. Obviously, the content of the show resonated with me. In a stroke of synchronicity, I happened to meet Tom at a men’s group in 1980. I told him how much I enjoyed the show, and I mentioned that if he ever wanted help with interviewing to please let me know, because I thought I would be good at it.

Over one year later, Tom contacted me and asked if I was still interested in helping him do interviews on Pathways. I began as co-host and became the primary host of Pathways when Tom retired from the show last year. This all goes to show how after you put yourself out there for what you want, divine providence can come around when the timing is right—another case of the “law of attraction” at work!

The Pathways show is an extension of my life’s mission and the mission of my non-profit Divination Foundation, which is to research, develop and promote technologies for personal and cultural transformation. I’ve learned so much picking the brains of cultural change agents and spiritual leaders, and that’s helped me understand myself and has also provided a wide perspective on the world we live in, to support a sense of hope and meaning. In the process, I’ve interviewed hundreds of people over the years, including such luminaries as Deepak Chopra, Don Miguel Ruiz and John Gray.

My Pathways interviews are available to stream or download on, and you can subscribe to the podcast for free on iTunes. The conversations cover personal and spiritual development, entrepreneurship, financial responsibility, creative power, shamanism, sexuality, philanthropy, environmental issues, spiritual awakenings and many other topics that are delightfully unclassifiable. The programs are short (28 minutes long), free of advertising and free of charge.

I’m no stranger to giving talks or being interviewed myself (or giving speeches to large audiences). In my next blog post, I’ll discuss my adventures on the other side of the microphone!


Grandma’s Law: Bite the Bullet, Have More Fun!

A hyper-connected world makes us hyper-distracted. Smartphones, tablets, even watches spit out endless texts, tweets and funny kittens — making it difficult to concentrate or accomplish goals. When faced with a list of tasks, the common tendency is to save the hardest for last, putting off the more stressful items until we have no choice. This tendency leads to procrastination or incidental neglect, where critical factors don’t get the attention or quality of thinking they deserve.

How can we better prioritize things to correct for this self-defeating tendency? In my recent book, Great Decisions and Perfect Timing, I bring up an aspect of emotional intelligence known as delayed gratification, which I refer to as “Grandma’s Law.” Daniel Goleman, the author of Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ, makes a compelling case for delaying gratification. He calls for greater “cognitive control” to help children manage their attention through the use of mindfulness techniques. This is Grandma’s Law in a nutshell!

The ability to control one’s impulses is a foundation of wise decision-making and effective productivity throughout life. As a parent, I tried to teach my son “Grandma’s Law,” which went like this: “Sure, you can have ice cream… after you finish your green beans.” Putting chores first was a lesson I was made to learn at a young age (I’m grateful about it now.) It took me a while to realize that the removal of overhanging deadlines made subsequent playtime more fun.

Applying Grandma’s Law in my own life, I had achieved perfect grades and scholarship awards throughout a rigorous education. Later, Grandma’s Law made a critical difference in my professional life—informing my decision-making and enabling my ability to survive, and ultimately thrive, as a bootstrap entrepreneur. As a parent, one way I invoked Grandma’s Law with my son was to get him to do his chores and homework on Saturday with Sunday as his play day, rather than the other way around (which he naturally preferred).

Grandma’s Law speaks to the logical aspect of strategic decision-making—prioritization—helping us do things in the right order. It is logical, because it doesn’t take intuition to analyze the most challenging part of a project or to-do list. Just tune into your feelings—the thing you dread having to do the most is where you start!

If you’re not sure how to focus on the most difficult tasks, ask yourself: What task fills you with the most apprehension? Which are you least confident about? These are the ones to tackle early on. After you knock them off, it’s like rolling downhill until you are done and it’s playtime!

Tip: If you’re stuck, try the “Letting Go” mantra from my book. It’s simple: Focusing on your breathing, let go of identifying with changing thoughts and feelings, while being open to and mindful of whatever arises in your mind. Close your eyes and take a full breath, thinking the word Letting as you inhale and stretching out the Go as you exhale. Repeat as often as necessary until your mind relaxes. Your head is then clear enough to make the wise move. You will get better results and have more fun afterwards!

The Amazing Power of Generosity

In the early days of my Internet start-up (, I assumed the sovereign archetype and invented my own currency. I called it “Karma Coins” and it was a radical idea at the time — a way to give registered members a way to make small payments for do-it-yourself Tarot card readings, I-Ching readings and astrology reports — payments that would sometimes be too small for a credit card.

As our first year of Karma Coin operations was ending, I was inspired to give all of our 100,000 members (which grew to 10 million over the next few years) a New Year’s gift of 50 Karma Coins each. It was a gesture born of a generous impulse but also to see what would happen. I told our IT guy to deposit 50 Karma Coins into each account. On the side, I predicted to our small staff that revenues would take a hit for a few days as a result.

Boy, was I wrong! Instead of dropping, sales of Karma Coins almost immediately tripled! After that, I increased the company’s generous giving to our community. We started depositing KCs into members’ accounts on their birthdays, along with a ‘personal’ e-mail from me wishing a happy birthday and telling them about our gift for them.

We were experimenting with generosity as business practice, and it had a “Johnny Appleseed” effect. When we launched Karma Coins, Visionary Networks had few employees and was barely profitable. Some thought that giving things away might destroy our chances to grow and prosper. But this experiment was an example of listening to my intuition and a desire to do a good thing for our community, so I expanded the gift-giving in various creative ways.

Other CEOs have also understood the power of generosity. For example, you may recall recent news story about Dan Price, CEO of Seattle-based Gravity Payments, who pegged $70,000 as minimum wage at his company. He drastically reduced his own pay to balance this out. His rationale was that happy employees are loyal if they are treated generously and have a long-term stake in a business (granted, he held founder’s stock).

We all have an ability to think bigger. In my previous blog post on the Tragedy of the Commons, I referenced Charles Eisenstein’s book Sacred Economics: Money, Gift, and Society in the Age of Transition. Eisenstein mentions the possibility of making gift-giving itself into a kind of currency – where “a magical synchronicity of wants and needs” can unfold. It’s a fascinating idea.

A coda about Karma Coins: sadly, the practice of giving them away faded after I sold the company and bean-counters took over. But what I had learned from gifting Karma Coins is that when generosity comes from the heart and is in alignment with the collective good, it rebounds to the good of the giver! Even small acts of generosity can grow you while contributing to the greater social good. Let’s challenge ourselves to do at least one generous act a day without expecting anything in return. Generosity is a gift to ourselves … let’s be good to ourselves often!

How Do You Like Your Day Job?

Everyone always has a day job, even well-off folks who have a lot of time or someone like me who sold his business. While I am no longer an employee or an entrepreneur – and I enjoy more creative freedom than I used to – serving as Executive Director of my non-profit Divination Foundation is work. Writing books, like Great Decisions, Perfect Timing, is a lot of work. Paying bills and taxes is work, and managing one’s investments is serious work too.

Most people want more freedom, some room to move. You may not feel you have creative freedom within your current occupation. Even if you don’t have as much as you would like, you have cause to celebrate how much freedom you do have. Only 250 years ago you would have had no choice over many important things—including livelihood, where you lived or even whom you were married off to!

Throughout history, most of a person’s identity was predetermined by family and circumstance. There was little freedom (or privacy) at all. The American and French revolutions gave rise to democratic societies and, together with the Industrial Revolution, the rise of a middle class. Urbanization led to a decline of village customs like arranged marriages and, in general, greatly increased the number of occupational options that people were able to choose from.

Does this progress mean we will ever achieve the freedom to do absolutely anything we want, whenever we want? No. We can choose our trade, but even so, it’s the rare person who can make a living (mostly) doing something they passionately love. Nevertheless, we can still be grateful that we have so much more freedom than our ancestors and many of us have some choice of occupation according to how a job suits our nature and temperament.

In its twisted way, the 2008 financial crisis made it easier for people to appreciate their day job – because they were happy to have one at all! Many people who were laid off had a hard time finding employment, and were forced to reinvent themselves. In some cases this was a positive disruption, an opportunity to discover a new occupation that may be in better alignment with one’s sense of creative and personal freedom. Now that the job freeze seems to be thawing, more people are able to make adjustments to their job descriptions toward doing business that makes greater room for heart and spirit. And, with a more inclusive and empathic feminine style of leadership, we are changing the face of the workplace from the inside out.

Whatever occupation you find yourself in, the ultimate key is to find the meaning in the service (or products) you help provide, and see how it at least indirectly supports your personal development path – and possibly the evolution of your company – with the help of your own improved decision-making.

As long as you have a day job that is not harming anyone (including yourself), consider yourself fortunate. As you learn how to make better intuitive decisions that bring you into closer and closer alignment with your own highest values, bit-by-bit you’ll be guided to perceive whatever it is you do with a perspective that supports both personal satisfaction and advancement.

The Evolution of Your Mission

What is a mission? For some, it is a singular sense of purpose and meaning in their lives. I think that’s partially correct. However, a mission is not the result of specific acts (or actions) we take. It has everything to do with evolving your consciousness and awakening your creative power. How many missions can a person have in one lifetime? Is it possible to think in terms of having a different one at each stage? Yes! I reject perfectionistic fantasies about one’s lifelong mission. I find that the “all-or-nothing” philosophy is self-defeating, and it is diametrically opposed to true strategic decision-making. Our ultimate mission is about being, not doing.

To help illustrate this point, think of your life as (broadly) divided into three stages. We arrive at several crossroads on our individual journeys; each stage offers different dilemmas, different priorities, and different strategic decisions that need to be made. We investigate these stages in my new book, Great Decisions, Perfect Timing. They are Self-Discovery; Building and Providing; and Giving Back. Let’s discuss each stage of life as I’ve come to understand them.


The mission in Stage One is self-discovery and the primary strategic decision is in answer to the question: “What shall I try next?” As a result of trial and error – which might include a fair amount of job-hopping and, in the social sphere, dating a lot of different people – we trip across one or two things that utterly fascinate us. It may take 20 years for the reasons to fully manifest – as it did in my career story – but your natural fascinations are important at this stage of life.

Building and Providing

The mission in Stage Two is to produce and provide – for yourself and perhaps a family. It is during this stage that we master skills and build a livelihood that will support us and others. My career in the software business, followed by becoming an inspired entrepreneur, exemplifies this stage for me. My only goal during this stage was to make a living doing something I found interesting, and ultimately creating products and services that fascinated me. The primary questions during this stage have to do with managing resources, teamwork, logistics, and making tactical decisions.

Giving Back

The mission is Stage Three is giving back. It is the patron stage, where you’re a mentor, sponsor, and/or you engage in philanthropic activities. You’re creating a legacy. In fact, at this stage, you should ask: “What is the most impactful legacy I can create starting right now?” In my case, after I had mastered valuable professional skills and eventually sold the business I built in Stage Two, I chose to create a non-profit entity: the Divination Foundation. The Divination Foundation has a mission to help people make profound decisions and take the risks that will grow them.

Ultimately, your mission is not a function of what you do or have done, but it is to be a self-actualized human being. Always remember … it’s about being!

What are the Synchronicities In Your Life?

Hearing people’s synchronicity stories – and sharing my own – has been a fun offshoot of the launch of Great Decisions, Perfect Timing. One of my favorite visionary beliefs is that there are no accidents and everything happens for a reason; we can recognize amazing coincidences as meaningful – as synchronicities that we can intuitively perceive and actually use to improve our timing.

In the book, I noted, “living a synchronistic life involves cultivating acceptance and wonder while letting go of judgment and resistance to the way things appear.” Wonder is important to synchronicity, the perception that there are no accidents, and things happen for a reason. I’m sure you can think of a dozen instances where you felt there was an unseen intelligence involved in the way certain situations in your life have unfolded.

Richard Hopcke, the author of There Are No Accidents: Synchronicity and the Stories of Our Lives, argues that synchronicity helps us bring a “symbolic attitude to our lives,” and I couldn’t agree more. Whenever you experience misfortune – and we all do – rather than blaming yourself or others, it is helpful to think of it as a new point of view on a larger pattern. You will also notice “little miracles” that occur in your life. For example, in the book, I relate an anecdote where I needed to buy a house to accommodate myself, my teenage son, my startup and a couple of employees. However (and many of you will relate to this), my credit score had taken a beating because I was a struggling entrepreneur and no longer a regularly-paid employee.

I located a house in Portland that was just right, but was immediately told that there had been dozens of other applicants ahead of me. After exchanging small talk with the owner (“so what do you do for a living?”), she was delighted to learn that I was the producer of the Synchronicity software for the Mac, that funny new ice cube-shaped computer she had purchased. This came as a shock, because in those days, Apple was not the juggernaut that it is now. She also told me that Synchronicity was the only software she herself had ever purchased. We both noted the remarkable synchronicity that had brought us together and she leased the house to me on the spot. A year later, she sold it to me and we ran the company out of there until we outgrew the space. To this day, I refer to that home as “the house synchronicity built.”

The previous owner of that house and I were both aware of the power of synchronicity. She could have shrugged off the coincidence, or I could have decided not to approach her at all because of my credit score. But we both listed to our intuitive antennae, which led to making the right move at the right time.

I’m sure you have similar stories to share, and I’d love to hear them. In Chapter 12 of Great Decisions, Perfect Timing, I include a link to our Synchronicity Forum, which contains amazing tales of synchronicity shared by readers of the book. Please share (anonymously if you wish) your own stories of synchronicity, and be inspired by others. (You can also email such stories to the Divination Foundation.) May we all learn to better appreciate the power of synchronicity!

Tragedy of the Commons (and the Common Good)

In my new book Great Decisions, Perfect Timing, I explore how a “visionary decision” needs to take the collective good into careful consideration. A personal criterion of mine is that if anything is good for me, it also has to be good for everyone. Everything is interconnected. If something is not good for everyone, it can’t really be good for me.

Charles Eisenstein’s book Sacred Economics: Money, Gift, and Society in the Age of Transition discusses our “Age of Separation” where we have lost our ties to nature and community. He also points out how we are moving into a new “Age of Interconnectedness.”

Science proves we are interconnected. If you doubt that, just consider climate change. Greenhouse gases (no matter which country they come from) affect the global climate, upsetting the balance of energy entering or leaving the planet. Burning fossil fuels (like coal or natural gas) for electricity is responsible for about 30% of all greenhouse gas emissions. These emissions are actually affecting our weather, and their production is directly caused by unregulated industries.

Another unfortunate economic byproduct of unregulated capitalism is an unbalanced concentration of wealth among 1% of all people. According to the Pew Research Center, U.S. income inequality has been growing for decades, but it is now higher in the U.S. than it was before the stock market crash of 1929. (This level of income inequality was one of the catalysts that led to the Great Depression.) Income inequality is also endemic to the economies of many other countries around the world, from democracies like India to totalitarian regimes in China and Russia.

In Great Decisions, Perfect Timing, I write about “The Tragedy of the Commons,” an article by ecologist Garrett Hardin that was first published in 1968 in the journal Science. Hardin describes a village of herdsmen whose sheep share a common pasture for grazing. Short-term advantage occurs when any one herdsman adds animals to his herd, but the long-term effect of this kind of infectious behavior is the complete destruction of the pasture. As I write in my book, “win-lose” strategies always turn out to be “lose-lose.”

To the extent that people think they can insulate themselves from their neighbors (whether local or global), they are delusional. Those who play the zero-sum game of win-lose, and consumed with accumulation, are not “voting in their own best interests.” If a decision or action is not to the benefit of the greater good of all, it’s not really good for you. Why not? Because we are all connected!

So how do we align our personal good with the good of all? Eisenstein discusses a society that operates on a gift economy: “If you have more than you need, you give it to somebody who needs it…that’s where real social security comes from.” This is a powerful idea. I wrote in a previous article how the Divination Foundation is my “legacy non-profit”— my way to give back to the cultural commons. We all have the benefit of our wisdom, our attention, and our time. Even a kind word or gesture to a stranger is a way of giving back. We are all a part of this emerging Age of Interconnectedness.

Channeling Your Inner Sovereign

No matter what you do, think of yourself as the Chief Executive (CEO) of your life. I am referring to that part of you that consciously makes all your strategic decisions. Hopefully a Visionary Decision Making practice is helping you make the right moves at the right time.

Archetypes play a critical role in Visionary Decision Making. If you’re new to the concept, a couple of chapters in Great Decisions, Perfect Timing, will help. Archetypes are “patterns of thought or image that are collectively inherited and universally available to us via the unconscious” mind. You can connect with archetypes whenever you need support; more specifically when you need to make an important decision.

The Sovereign is an archetypal persona central to Visionary Decision Making. This is your inner ruler who makes sure that his or her decisions support or protect all the members of your realm – everyone you take care of or manage. As a leader, you are called upon to exercise authority and allocate resources so that everyone you are responsible for, including yourself, will benefit. The primary qualities of the Sovereign are wisdom, compassion, and responsibility.

In history, there are many instances of benevolent rulers – men and women – who supported the collective good, sometimes with great sacrifice. The Buddha abdicated his entire throne – with pleasures abounding – to resolve the problem of human suffering. King Solomon was invited by God to choose any power he wanted. Rather than taking more power, he chose to become the Wise Ruler/Elder, and became renowned for his enlightened decision-making.

When you invoke or channel an archetype, you are drawing from a realm of limitless power, so don’t let it go to your head. Those who get greedy for power run the risk of turning into petty tyrants or manipulators. As noted in my blog post on the Tragedy of the Commons, tyrants hoard power and try to put themselves above the law. My book shows how to invoke archetypes in such a way that you are siphoning the generative aspects of these powerful energies to inform your conscious mind and improve your decision-making.

When I was an entrepreneurial employer, consciously connecting with the Sovereign archetype helped me better run my startup company – a small “kingdom” that eventually included thirty employees and millions of members. I made a conscious daily effort to invoke the calm power of the Sovereign. Every morning I would recite an invocation like this: “Today I call upon the powers that be to help me do a good job taking care of my people.” I took this role seriously; in fact, I once mortgaged my home (hardly a palace) to make sure I could pay my people on payday!

My Builder stage is over, but I make strategic decisions as the director of the Divination Foundation during this new Patron stage of life. There are several people involved with Divination Foundation, and part of my “job” is to make sure that they – as well as my extended family – have all the support they need.

Never forget that you are the CEO of your own life. Connecting with your inner Sovereign will help you make the right moves at the right time in the most generous way.

Intuitive Intelligence

The subtitle of my new book, Great Decisions, Perfect Timing, is “Cultivating Intuitive Intelligence.” Accessing intuitive intelligence is the central component of the Visionary Decision Making process: after all, intuition stimulates the impetus to make a decisive move, do nothing at all, or run like hell. Its signal may take the form of a “gut feeling” or a “feeling in your bones,” based on perception associated with the right brain.

Humans have a “triune brain” that consists of the brain stem, the limbic brain, and the neocortex with its right and left hemispheres. Logical problem-solving derives from the left hemisphere, and intuition is a function of the right hemisphere. The two hemispheres are physically identical, but their contents are quite different. In the book Incognito: The Secret Lives of the Brain, neurobiologist Dr. Roger Sperry notes the two hemispheres are, “two separate realms of conscious awareness; two sensing, perceiving, thinking and remembering systems.” The physical structure of our brain can make it difficult to receive signals from the intuition. The barrage of all the sensory stimuli can be so overwhelming that we don’t perceive (or we misinterpret) the subtle signals from our intuition.

We rely on wireless signals in our smartphones, tablets, and laptops; it has become an indispensable technology. Yet few of us are aware of a delicate wireless connection between the right hemisphere of our brain and what I call the “Infinite Intelligence”—a realm of knowledge that Jung termed “the collective unconscious.” Our intuition is that sixth sense by which we can access this reservoir of knowledge, storing impressions and images in the right brain’s memory. We need the left hemisphere to translate the information that this wireless connection reveals into the form of thoughts, words, and ideas. Our logical, problem-solving brain contains the tools needed to understand intuitive sensations and allows us to formulate a decision to make a move.

But, as I mentioned above, all of the sensory “noise” we deal with every day makes it challenging to access our intuitive intelligence. In addition, fear and strong emotions can greatly interfere with the receptivity of our delicate wireless antenna.

One type of image particularly that helps the left side of the brain make sense of nonverbal impressions is an archetype. For example, one way for the logical mind to translate an intuitive message would be by an archetype showing up in your dreams. An example would be your inner King or Queen appearing in a dream to help you make an important decision that has been pressing upon you. A recurring dream with your inner Sovereign lets you know that a particular situation requires some decisive action.

Intuitive intelligence allows you to identify the risks in life that will grow you. Then, with a modicum of courage, you can commit to them by taking brave action. You will learn from all these risks, even if your ego should later label an outcome a “failure.” But before you have all your good options, you need to A) clear a pathway for signals that can be picked up by your intuitive antenna and B) execute a decision with good timing.